Book & Tea Pairings

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Color-coordinating books and teas for Fofky’s Boxes or for a promotional picture are one of our favorite thing to do. So check out the small list gathered for you.

1. Unleashing your Creativity and Boh Chamomile Tea or Boh Lemon Myrtle or Boh Peppermint Tea

2. Unlikely Friends and Tazo Passion Tea

3. The Tower and Numi Organic Jasmine Green

4. Ayesha Dean II and Tazo Wild Sweet Orange Tea

5. Here With You and Tazo Organic Chai

6. The Moon of Masarrah and Yogi Detox Tea or Blue Raspberry Crush Herbal Tea

7. Woke & Loud and Tazo Zen Tea

We hope you like the selection. Come back again for more book and tea pairings suggestions!

Papatia-the Barista

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“What Am I? Book 2” is Coming Out Soon Insha’Allah!

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New Release! Book Launch and Blog Tour for WAMI 2 MAY 17 2019

Join us for the official book launch and blog tour for “What Am I? Book 2” by Asiila Imani and Papatia Feauxzar from May 31st, 2019 to June 4th, 2019 insha’Allah! This is long overdue! Masha’Allah alhamdullilah, it’s finally here 🎉💞🥳🥁🎊!

Thank you for reading.

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Tips to Be and Stay A Happy Mother

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I recently picked a local magazine geared at parents in Dallas and an article by Christa Melnyk Hines caught my eye. She  is a journalist and the author of Confidentiality Connected: A Mom’s Guide to a Satisfying Social Life. She lists eleven characteristics of Happy Moms and I agreed with all of them. I will paraphrase them here and show how they relate to my Islamic personal life, at least since the birth of my son. Alhamdullilah.

  • Lean on Community

Most of my work is done online and I lean on the support the online community of a couple social media platforms provide me. In her article, she points out that bonding with friends boosts a woman’s level of oxytocin; the stress reducing hormone in the body. In addition, I’m making an effort to also lean on off-line community; a very challenging thing to do for an introvert. Duas requested!

  • Commit to Healthy Living

I sleep early, I wake up early, and I make time for self-care by pampering myself regularly with homemade cosmetic materials. This helps me stay energetic, boosts my self-confidence and self-image. I’m happier and definitely more patient these days. Alhamdullilah.

I went through an integrative nutrition health coaching program a couple years ago with Zeeshan Shah, IIN, of Eat.Drink.Pure whom I interviewed, and she strongly suggest to women and children to look at their Circle of Life from the School of Nutrition’s diagram below. A personal balance in all of these areas helps one have a more fulfilling life. I can attest to that at least since I pay more attention to them these days.

  • Take Time for Personal Pursuits

I try not to stay stagnant in my acquisition of knowledge. I have a Master’s Degree in Accounting but I’m still going to school (Islamic and Secular) because I’m a student of life and that’s my personal pursuit; iqra. So, find your personal pursuits that have been shorthanded or sidelined and revive/reclaim them to be and stay happy in your life. Closure gives peace of mind.

  • Nourish Yourself

Life is hectic but on weekends, I enjoy my time relaxing while making brunch. Why? Because I see it as a time to bond with my Creator, my family, my soul, relax and enjoy food bliss. Good food has a highly spiritual aspect. So, see cooking and nourishing yourself as a soothing and mediating moment not as a chore. As a matter of fact, this is my time of worship with only positive thoughts and continuous dhikr. We were created to worship in all our actions and cooking is one worshipping act I greatly enjoy. Masha’Allah alhmdullilah. Now, there is nothing wrong with a man cooking for you too *wink*.

  • Laugh. Family Life Can be Funny

Life with a toddler is funny indeed! My son says a ton of hilarious things because at his age he takes things literally. While these Mommy Fails Moments make me consider how to approach the homeschooling process next, they help me loosen up and enjoy life as it is. Other suggestions include a satire, pictures and videos of good times with friends and family, and comedy films. Life is short, laughing moments are memories you can use to lift your spirits when darkness wants to pounce on you or pounces on you. That’s life. Sometimes you will be dragged to darkness without your consent, but will you make an effort to rise above it or conquer that dark moment and restore your happiness? I pray you answer, “Yes.”

  • Follow a Spiritual Practice

This is a no brainer for Muslims. Allah said in surah 13, verse 28, “Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.” Hines says here, “Studies find that people who lean an inner belief are happier.” Making time to intentionally seek a sense of peace leads to a happier being. Meditating or silent reflection, journaling, or attending inspiring religious services are all part of this seeking sense of inside peace. Inspiring khutbas and halaqas qualify here.

  • Practice Gratitude

Hines suggests writing down three things that one is thankful for daily including even all the smallest moments. She also cites a research done at Eastern Washington University here. “We have found that grateful individuals tend to be happy individuals and that grateful thinking improves mood,” said the researchers. I personally write down more than three things ranging from tiny to big, down daily because Allah says in surah 14 verse 7, “If you’re grateful, I will give you more.” Alhamdullilah.

  • Get a Groove On

In this section, Hines suggest music which I won’t be suggesting unless it’s a nasheed *laughs.* Anyway, I listen to the Quran daily while working online because it relaxes me and helps me stay focused. It also helps me fight low spirits and stress. As a result, I always stay productive and on top of things. Alhamdullilah.

  • Set Boundaries

This part is major to me because I’m prone to anxiety if I don’t set boundaries about who is and is not allowed in my life. If you’re too nice or too polite to tell people to back off a bit, you open the door for people to abuse you again and again, verbally and emotionally. DON’T DO THIS. Be firm. It’s an Islamic duty because it shows how steadfast you are when faced with very tough decisions.

  • Access Good Childcare

I homeschool my son but when I need to pop in the office or any other place where having him in tow would hold me in contempt, I put him in a fun and reliable place to avoid the contempt and distraction he will bring me. Otherwise, him and I go everywhere on a daily basis. Then, I pray to Allah-al Waliyy and al-Wakil to watch and protect him in my absence. Finally, I go do my business with iman, tawwakkul, and peace of mind. This is important when you don’t have any family member who can help or is close by. So, search for one place now that will come in handy in emergency situations. If family members complain, ask them if they will fill the spot for you. It’s your Islamic right to have a nanny. Do what is in your best interest and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. It’s not up to them. It’s up to you to decide your happiness.

  • Avoid Comparison

Everyone has their own rizq, family rules, etc. Don’t compare yourself to others, you don’t know or see the full picture. If their happiness or successes bother you, lower your gaze and stay grateful for what you have been blessed with. “And We have made some of you as a trial for others: will you have patience?” It’s a test and our reactions go for or against our book of deeds. Be careful in retaliating in ways that will be charged against your book of deeds. Practice self-control, inspire people, don’t trigger their anxieties, make dua for them, be happy with your life and trust that there is enough sun for everyone. Allah is the best of Planners, and He will make you shine too insha’Allah if it’s good for you in this life and the next.

I hope this list is beneficial to you with the personal and Islamic touch. Ramadan Mubarak! May Allah accept, aameen.

Text Source: Dallas Parent May 2019

Picture Source: CNN (MuslimGirl)

Previously published at Hayati Magazine.

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“Woke and Loud” is out!

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Alhamdullilah, three of my ❤️ felt poems are included in WOKE & LOUD: A Faith-Based Medley of Muslim Poetry & Spoken Word.

Edited by Laila Hasib, Woke and Loud is a kaleidoscope of visions, beliefs, voices, emotions and action awaits within these pages. One person talking to another. A collection of 36 Muslim poets and spoken word artists. First of its kind.

 

 We are 36 writers in total. Check us out Insha’Allah 🎊📚 here and here.

 

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Welcome Sultan of the Months, O Ramadan! Ahlan wa Sahlan!

Assalamu aleikum!

Ramadan Mubarak!

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1441 AH is available on Amazon at https://www.amazon.com/1441-AH-August-2019-2020/dp/1947148230 or  here.

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#RamadanReadathon 2019 – Non Fiction Books Recommendation

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Ramadan is fast approaching and that means it’s also time for the Ramadan Readathon! I love taking part and Nadia does such a wonderful job hosting it every year!

For this years readathon there is also a bingo card and there will be several posts over the course of the week sharing book recommendations for each of the prompts! So keep an eye out on the Ramadan Readathons social media page to read them all and help you choose what books to read this month!

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I am going to share with you some books that I think are perfect reads for Ramadan!

Some are books that help us with our spirituality and connecting with Allah and others are books that give us insight into the lives of Muslims and their achievements.

1 Reclaim You Heart by Yasmin Mogahed – I cannot explain to you how much I love this book…

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Some Ramadan and Eid Books Recommendations

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These books are available on Amazon and/or at https://www.djarabikitabs.com/bookstore .

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Thank you!

Papatya*

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Written Vs.Not Written Stuff: Cultural Barriers Impeding Muslim Women In Sports Part II

The Human Lens

Part II Written By Papatia Feauxzar

Bismillah,

Islam has an egalitarian treatment when it addresses men and women. The quranic verses attest that both genders can do what the other gender does, yet the man is not like the woman. Look at that. We have the same abilities, we’re different but we aren’t contradictory. Subhanallah, only the Creator can make such a thing possible.

To continue, in the story of Maryam (aleihi salam), we see that her Mother wished for a pious heir (a son to be precise) who will devote himself to the Creator of the Worlds for the rest of his life. However, Allah made a plot twist and gave her a baby girl, someone who will have a period and will thus become unpure monthly. Can you imagine the level of distraught Hannah, a steadfast believer, felt at the discovery of the sex of her child…

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Written Vs.Not Written Stuff: Cultural Barriers Impeding Muslim Women In Sports

The Human Lens

Part I, Written By Saadia Haq

The world of sports is largely dominated by men, more often female sportspersons and women athletes face many challenges that hinder their progress and participation in the world of sports. In the context of Islamic societies, we observe that the prevalence of strict gender roles in Muslim communities limit women’s participation in sports on both personal and professional level.

Most Muslims will agree that our societies are lagging behind due to lack of awareness and religious misinterpretations that prevent or disapprove Muslim women participation in any kind of sportive activities. There are places in the Muslim world, where clerics and religious leadership promotes Islam does not support its women to take up sports as per modesty and veiling ideals. My prolific co-author Papatia Feauxzar shall debunk the religious teachings on this matter in part II, so we ask you to stay tuned!

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On Online Book Club Recap

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Check out the latest edition of Fofky’s Book Club.

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Thanks for reading,

Papatia

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Yaseen’s Big Dream — A Review

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New Release! Book Launch and Blog TourSummary: Yaseen has got some big dreams. He dreams of helping his family, his friends, and his community. But is it really possible for a kid like Yaseen to do all of those things? Of course it is! Read Yaseen’s Big Dream to follow him on an adventure unlike any other.

Author: Umm Juwayriyah

Illustrator: Azra Momin

Formatted by:Reyhana Ismail

Publisher: Djarabi Kitabs Publishing

Review: The first thing that crossed my mind after I read the already illustrated and designed Yaseen’s Big Dream by Umm Juwayriyah, I said to myself, “Yaseen’s Big Dream is a book that will inspire the Muslim Youth.” This is because Yaseen is an inspirational character who is loved, cherished and raised to believe that he can reach beyond the stars! He motivates and entertains the reader with his strong wills.

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“Here With You” by Umm Afraz Muhammed — An Online Book Launch

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Interviewer: Papatia Feauxzar at Fofky’s

Interviewee: Umm Afraz Muhammed

Here With You– An Interview with the Author

Umm Afraz has authored several short books on self-help but today she is at our bookstore to discuss her debut novel Here With You so she can give us some insights on her unique novel masha’Allah. Assalamu aleikum Umm Afraz, welcome to Fofky’s.

Q1 – Can you please give us some insights on the title of your book? Like why Here With You versus something more mothers-in-law related? It’s a romance story so I have some theories but I would love to hear from the mastermind herself.

A1 Wa alaykumussalaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh Papatia. Jazakillahu khayran for having me on your blog ❤ . It is truly an honor <3. Okay, so I wanted to have a title that had an emotional connection – not only for the characters, but also for the audience. The phrase “here with you” could be understood in a romantic, platonic, parental love, or spiritual sense. It all depends on the context with which it is used.

Q2 – I liked how you portrayed the mother-in-law; she is not a bad person but there was discrepancy between her firm devotion in worship and her application of Islamic or courtesy sunnah manners towards her daughter-in-law. It portrays that many people with whom we don’t agree aren’t necessarily evil but simply imperfect Muslims. I found it relatable and realistic. Did you find emotionally easy or hard to pen her character based on your experience in marriage or scenarios you’ve witnessed in real life from people around you?

A2 – You are bang on! That was exactly how I wanted to portray Fatima. She is just like everyone else – trying to practice Islam whilst struggling with her humanly flaws – an imperfect Muslim. I think that is why she was fairly easy to characterize. She is someone we could all relate to.

Q3 – Aunties everywhere are inappropriate and especially during nikah related events where their intimacy innuendos are often raunchy. Have you ever witnessed them to relent? Now, it’s safe to say that sometimes they relay valuable info to the bride to take to the bedroom at times. And poor brides like Salma are usually left to their verbal claws. Do you think such customs should stop or do you think Aunties should carry on because it makes nikah related events fun?

A3 You know, when you think back, it seems funny. But when you are in that spot, undergoing that experience or even when you are in the environment listening to the comments and innuendos, it gets uncomfortable. I believe there should be a balance in joking. It is possible to make a joke while maintaining the dignity of the couple. And if there is any information to be given, it should be done in private. Wa Allahu Alam.

Q4 – Financial security, which is necessary as Islam is about the middle path, pushes many of our parents to steer us towards STEM fields. It has advantages and Disadvantages. Faisal was conflicted with such decisions made for him by his parents. I believe in getting a degree that will support your true passion later. But do you think that one can live off unpredictable art revenues without getting a formal education which can be a safety net?

A5We were raised to believe only STEM fields generate income, and arts/humanities field don’t produce as much. I agree a formal education would give the CV a boost, but I also believe that with the way the modern-world is proceeding, as long as you have the passion and you invest your time and efforts in it by continuous learning, and practicing what you are good at, you will earn enough. After all, rizq comes from Allah, and what is meant for you will never leave you unless Allah Wills it. In the end, it is all about practicing yourself and trusting Allah. What are your thoughts?

Papatia Feauxzar : I agree. At the end of the day, it’s about rizq. Masha’Allah.

Q5 – Do you have any questions for me about your book?

A5 – I would love to know what you thought about the story, the writing style, and any critical feedback that you have. Also, what is one scene that you felt closely connected to, and why?

Papatia Feauxzar : The writing style fits the genre of this book; smooth, sensual and emotional. If you had written an adventure book or sci-fi book like this, it wouldn’t have worked because these genres require fast-paced storytelling to keep the reader excited and tuned-in.

Now, I only found very few things (subjective by the way) to be unsatisfied about. For instance, I felt tremendously teased with the sultry romance of Faisal and Salma. I loved them both and the way he stood up for her when it came to his mother meddling. That was very relatable, alhamdullilah. That’s all.

Papatia Feauxzar : Umm Afraz, thank you for being with us.

Umm Afraz : Thank you Fofky’s! Much love, and God Bless <3!

Papatia Feauxzar : Aameen, likewise! Check out a review and a reading of Here With You below, thanks!

Summary:

Salma, a new bride who is happily married to her husband, moves into her in-laws’ house as part of their South Indian culture. A new life, a new beginning, and a new family in a new country. Staying in a place far away from her loved ones, with no one to rely on but her husband, she undergoes the realities of life living under the same roof as her mother-in-law. How will she cope with the lifestyle changes and the daily challenges? Will her dreams of having a good relationship with her mother-in-law come true? Or will she discover the dreaded monster-in-law?

Fatima wants to be a good mother-in-law to Salma and yearns for a good relationship with her. Life and time throw opportunities her way to prove herself. Would she take the right decisions and keep her best foot forward? Or would she succumb to her ego and cultural stereotypes?

This book is about the emotional tug-of-war between a daughter-in-law and her mother-in-law. Sandwiched between the two most important women of his life is Faisal, the son of one and husband of the other.

The story revolves around the lives of these three characters and the relationships they share with each other as they learn to stick together despite the ups and downs they face as a joint family.

Review: Salma is a such a sweetheart and a good mannered Muslimah masha’Allah. You will fall in love with her way to face adversity if your faith is a balm to your spirits or if your faith soothes your fiery nature when it’s appropriate. Her mother-in-law is also a steadfast woman albeit her other flaws. Their relationship was a very relatable one and not the worst when it comes to daughter-in-law and mother-in-law drama but still it’s a very challenging one. I loved the story the minute I read a snippet of it several years ago and I’m happy to see the author’s brilliant complete penned work. Salma’s husband, Faisal, is another relatable character masha’Allah. In his plight, you will realize that Allah is the best of planners and that to make omelets, you have to break eggs.

My favorite passage as usual dealt with finance and affirmed my point of views. “We may have seemed to live a luxurious life, but rarely do people understand that the struggles we experienced were the same as that of any other middle-class family. I found it unfair that just because we lived in a posh area, we were expected to live a posh life. Relatives back home were unwilling to comprehend the fact that foreign-residents like us suffered financial issues too. It was as if money rained upon us and we were expected to distribute it to every Ahmad, Muhammed, and Abdullah they recommended. And if we refused to support them financially, relations are severed, regardless of the ties of kinship that Islam asks us to uphold sincerely. Over the years, I’ve learnt that the world runs on money, and rarely on love.”

I agree, many people think that financially secured individuals also don’t have money issues. And when financially secured individuals can’t lend them money or refuse to be unnecessarily hustled, resentment ensues as if they are entitled to these bounties they sought. As Muslims, we need to stop making plans on other people’s assets or even Allah’s bounties. We need to accept what people give freely and let go of expectations and master the notion of rizq. Nothing belong to us, even ourselves, we don’t belong to ourselves.

The novel also delves into cultural and real Islam. That was refreshing alhamdullilah. In all, Afraz’s writing is very smooth, subtle, lovely and most of all soulful and soul searching. The pace was also to my liking. I finished the book in less than a day.

I definitely recommend this book to halal romance lovers and readers of Muslim women’s contemporary fiction. Bravo!

Rating: 4.5/5

Here With You‘s Reading by Umm Afraz Muhammed.

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EBook available on Amazon here.

Paperback available on Pothi here.

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The Tower’s Online Book Launch

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The Tower — An Interview with the Author

Shereen Malherbe’s second contemporary novel The Tower debuts this April 2019, and we’re excited to pick the author’s brain with the following interview. So let’s get to it insha’Allah.

Q1- Shereen, have you ever been to Syria and did you have to interview actual Syrians for this novel?

A1 – I haven’t ever been to Syria, but I did interview a range of people for the book. Especially refugees and migrants with experience of London like their expectations versus the reality. Interviewing helped me with my major plot points and I think that is the beauty of research. Often life is more interesting, and in this case, it was more harrowing, than fiction.

Q2 – I liked the plot of The Tower and the writing masha’Allah. It’s a very smooth novel that fits a night when you want your mind to unwind and lull a bit. So while you write this genre of books, what other types (genres) of books do you like reading?

A2 – Thank you. I think studying English Literature and making sure you read widely contributes to how smoothly you write. Dissecting books is an important part of creating your own! I have heard that what you read always contributes more to how you write, even subconsciously and I would go further to say it isn’t just what you read, it is everything you experience. And that experience can come through books. Personally, I enjoy reading different types of fiction, historical fiction, contemporary fiction and the classics.

Q3- The Tower was a bit of stranger than fiction occurrence; the attacks on Muslims in their places of worship or their residences is a reality. The greed and politics that let this happen was also exposed in your book. Do you think this will be an eye-opening experience for readers?

A3 – I hope that in some way, all reading experiences are eye opening in some ways. My editor and I discussed the way reality happened and was mirrored in a scene in my novel. I had drafted the idea over a year ago and I did debate excluding it. However, I am glad we didn’t. Often, when communities pick up on a certain environment, like in this case rising islamophobia, the consequences are often predictable and that is exactly what happened in The Tower.

Politics have played a part in this and therefore I wanted to reflect that. Although this is fiction, I believe it is important to reflect how communities are feeling and I wanted to bring some empathy, humanity and hope in an increasingly hostile world.

Q4 – Your Palestinian heritage merges with Syrian heritage in this book. Do you have any Syrian roots?

A4 – I don’t myself, but I am aware of refugees from Palestine to Syria, made refugees again after the war. In that way my heritage shares perspectives with this view of movement and shifting homelands which I wanted to explore throughout the book. I think most of us are capable of shared empathy despite where we are from and the global refugee crisis is affecting millions so we are all part of it in some way.

That is the beauty of fiction; it doesn’t matter where you are from, we all have shared experiences.

Q5 – What else do you want your readers to take away from The Tower?

A5 – It’s hard to really expect certain responses from readers so as a writer, I believe the finished novel belongs to the readers now. So, I don’t like to say what I expect readers to take from it because it will mean different things to different people. However, if I had to say something, I would hope that it offers, even in a small way, a different, positive perspective of how we can all contribute something good to the world.

Shereen, thank you for being with us.

Readers, please check out the review below of The Tower.

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The Tower published by Beacon Books is the second contemporary women’s fiction novel written by Shereen Malherbe; a British Palestinian writer based in both the UK and the United Arab Emirates. Shereen Malherbe is also a writer for Muslimah Media Watch, a forum for critiquing the images of Muslim women in the media and pop culture.

Book Summary

Reem is a Syrian refugee who has arrived in London, trying to discover the whereabouts of her 10-year old brother, Adar. Obsessed with history and consumed by her fragmented memories of home, Reem is also hiding secrets she hopes will never be revealed. After being placed in a tower block, she befriends Leah; a single mother who has been forced to leave her expensive South Kensington townhouse. Their unlikely friendship supports them as they attempt to find their place in a relentless, heaving city, and come to terms with the homes they left behind. Both bold and timely, The Tower shows how Reem and Leah’s lives change and intersect in the wake of individual and communal tragedy, as well as in their struggle to adapt to a rapidly shifting society.

In The Tower, Malherbe explores fictionalized real events and realities such as the Grenfell tower incident, the remnants of the war in the Middle East and women’s mental health like she did in her first novel Jasmine Falling .

Reem finds herself triggered by the apparition of her detractor out of nowhere. Secretly battling a possible gestation, domestic and emotional abuse, she can’t help but chase her brother’s ghost in London.

Reem also faces both hardship and ease while trying to communicate in English, while looking and finding a job and while carrying herself around because while some strangers might be kind to you, some won’t. And a Muslim woman wearing hijab is always targeted for some nonsense.

Thus, meeting Leah and the welcoming ummah in Reem’s new UK apartment building— the tower—and neighborhood brings her comfort until tragedies/blessings in disguise rip the little struggling pieces of her life she had left.

In the narrative of Leah, Malherbe lightly touches on the positive privilege this character brings to society and the self-discovery journey Leah treads. Leah finally finds her call and Reem gets a happy ending with a decent chap.

We can definitely say that Malherbe’s great narrative skills of the setting bring us to the scene, making The Tower a moving tale. The book shows that when stricken with deep love rejection, tremendous loss of family members, etc. human nature shows its resiliency by making an effort to survive the darkness.

Find it on Amazon here.

Rating: 4/5

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PRESS RELEASE FOR YASEEN’S BIG DREAM BY UMM JUWAYRIYAH

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You can read it here.

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Homeschooling Tips for Toddlers

A Ducktrinor Mom

Assalamu aleikum!

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When you have little people around you, they mess with your stationary. All my markers are dried up or empty because the toddler prefers them to his own crayons. Now, I’m stuck with using his crayons for my own notes….smdh!

Anyway, the above list is a of pre-k milestone I found around to check if your kiddo is reasonably progressing before trying to enroll them. That said, I have found that from doctors to everybody else with an opinion about raising children, there is a great willingness to want to rush children into reaching certain milestones.

Alhamdullilah, we have checked all these milestones naturally without pressure. I have learned that children do things on their own time. You have to pray on it, leave it to Allah and finally show them regularly until one day, it clicks and they become independent with the task you want them…

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Ayesha Dean and The Seville Secret’s Online Book Launch!

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Interviewee: Melati Lum

The Seville Secret — An Interview with the Author

Ayesha Dean is back with another mystery to resolve in The Seville Secret and our bookstore is excited to get an interview with the author.

Q1- Did you have to go on a literary pilgrimage for this second tome?

A1- Yes! Just like I drew on my visit to Istanbul with The Istanbul Intrigue, I did the same with some scenes in The Seville Secret, although I went there many years ago. The first time I visited Seville and Cordoba, I loved Andalusia so much that I found myself back there again a few years later, but I added Granada, Madrid, and Barcelona to our itinerary as well as returning to Seville and Cordoba. Making those trips and seeing so many sights of historical significance to Muslim rule in Andalusia touched me deeply. It felt…

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Ready for Ramadan 2019 : A Countdown and Review of Some Ramadan Books – III

A Ducktrinor Mom

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Check out two more books for #readyforramadan2019 below please.

jinni night of moonthe jinni on the rooftopSummary: Eight-year-old Raza is too young to fast, but he longs for the delicious parathas the grown-ups eat before dawn. The aroma of the flaky, golden bread tempts him. He cannot wait for the children’s breakfast, but he’ll get into trouble if anyone finds him up this early. Lying in bed, Raza hatches a plan. Will he get away with it? This is a delightful tale about a mischievous boy who learns the true meaning of Ramadan – patience and empathy.

Author: Natasha Rafi

Publisher: Pamir LLC

Review:The Jinni on the Roof is an hilarious story that portrays the level of genius of Raza, and his willingness to help his family during Ramadan. I definitely recommend it.

Rating: 4.5/5

night of the moonSummary: …this sweet tale follows Yasmeen, a seven-year-old Pakistani-American girl, as she celebrates the Muslim holidays of Ramadan

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1441 AH is available on Amazon at https://www.amazon.com/1441-AH-August-2019-2020/dp/1947148230 or  here.

 

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The Art of Mutual Destruction

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The Art of Mutual Destruction by Neymat Raboobee at The Imperfect Muslimah is a tale woven with vengeance deeds. A love story set in rich crime boss underworld families, there is Iman, a mixed raced Blonde who is the jewel of her gangster grandfather Ibrahim Khan. There is also Iman’s mother who is physically abusive to her daughter she blames for ruining her life while her husband is a womanizer. Iman would do anything to get away from her Mom Aasia and her Politician stepfather.

Now, a few things were glossed over in this story like the setting (place) of the story and the world (the weather) around them. However, we get to just focus on the facts that truly move the story forward. We pick up on hints that money doesn’t make people happy and this is a tale about Rich People Problems. Though, the extent of the feudal families’s riches is not fully explained or given, we get the gist. They are rich folks who can make you disappear without anybody suspecting their involvement.

Some of the characters include Adam who has majorly sinned, Ali Cassim, Waseem, Shaida, James Blackwell and Kat. Ali has such a beautiful name and he is the total opposite. Shaida is lovely. Kat is loyal and pragmatic.

Raboobee is a storyteller, and she spins a tale that gives us a glimpse of what the private lives of hit-men and gangsters lives might look like. Do they have feelings? Do they hate their jobs? Do they want out? What originally drove them to that lifestyle? Do they believe in redemption or God? Are they practicing Believers? If you want to know, check out the book on Amazon today here. For another book by Raboobee check out this review.

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I-Intimacy by Carekhalifah – A Marriage Counseling Book

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Assalamu aleikum!

I bought I-intimacy by  Ismail Shaikh back in May 2018, and I finally get a chance to share my brief thoughts with you. My version of I-Intimacy is a 293-page eBook with over easy-to-read 70 small chapters dealing with a wide range of issues commonly met in relationships of all types; husband/wife, parents/children, in-laws, toxic religious leaders, etc.

The main thing we should get from Shaikh’s book get is that charity starts at home, and the author expatiates this point by reminding the reader to revive the lost sunnah of sakinah, mawaddah and rahmah in our homes, relationships and marriages.

The book also delves in topics such as finances in a marriage and the salam rule. I didn’t agree with his finance stance as in a man can make a woman aware that he had to use her money.

A woman’s money is her money and no you can’t inform me that you dipped into my rizq without my prior consent. Men have been given many, many, many privileges by Allah and let us recognize that this a privilege that Allah allowed women that should not be trampled over. If you take the money that I don’t have any issue giving you, you have stepped on a major sacred boundary. Period :). Now, if I gave you a bank card linked to my account with your name on it, you don’t have to inform me or make me aware of your spending. My trust is implied by me giving you access to my money.

Now, that’s out there, I can resume and say that I enjoyed that Shaikh made the reader aware that if you truly wish peace upon your spouse by offering salams when you get home, don’t act in the way that contradicts the words you’re saying. It’s true. At least if you avoid people your soul doesn’t recognize, it’s easy to avoid sending them a salam because you aren’t even interacting with them to begin with. Therefore, your actions match the words you aren’t saying. But if you are going to salam me, it should at least come from a place of truth, love, peace, rahmah among other good things.

Another topic I appreciated is the drama triangle, co-dependency and victimhood topic. I completely agreed because I don’t have any tolerance for narcissism and manipulators of all kinds. That said, it’s not a bad thing in passing to validate the true hurt someone felt that you’ve witnessed or been told. Anyway, so check out the following quotes.

“It is important to take time to reflect on our need to rescue.”

“This is about taking care of a “victim,” who is not really a
victim.”

“…we should remember what the safety
instructions state before the airplane takes off: “When the
oxygen mask drops, put it on yourself before assisting
others.”

Toxic people will play the victim card time and time again when you already have enough to deal with on your plate and try to suck you into their never-ending dramas; don’t become co-dependent and fall for the charade. Protect your heart, energy and light.

Finally, it was also refreshing to read a book by a man who puts women on a pedestal through and through without undermining a men’s authority. It’s pretty much whatever works for you figuratively as in, is the woman from “Makkah” or “Madinah?”

“…We, the people of Quraish, used to have authority over
women, but when we came to live with the Ansar, we noticed
that the Ansari women had the upper hand over their men, so
our women started acquiring the habits of the Ansari
women…” (Al-Bukhari)

 

Read more at his website -> https://www.carekhalifah.com

Rating: 4/5

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