Tag Archives: Marriage

How Do You Make Sure That Your Love Interest Is Not a Munafiq? — Hayati Magazine | EN

Posted on June 25, 2022 by Papatia

Bismillah, You will prepare for marriage by gathering all the right ingredients according to you, but some things will still surprise you along the way. For that reason, let’s make sure that faith is not that blind spot because marriage … Continue reading →

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Single & Searching and The In-Law Factor — Hayati Magazine | EN

Posted on January 30, 2021 by Papatia

Bismillah, When searching for a spouse, the family one is marrying into should also be looked into. For instance, there is an adage in Africa that says, “If you don’t know the village, you will marry the witch.” Upon closely … Continue reading →

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I-Intimacy by Carekhalifah – A Marriage Counseling Book

Posted on March 19, 2019 by Papatia

Assalamu aleikum! I bought I-intimacy by  Ismail Shaikh back in May 2018, and I finally get a chance to share my brief thoughts with you. My version of I-Intimacy is a 293-page eBook with over easy-to-read 70 small chapters dealing with a … Continue reading →

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3 Books by Muslim Women to Inspire You in Marriage and Life

Posted on February 7, 2019 by Papatia

Muslim women continue to unveil their true identities to the unbeknownst outside world which concluded what they are is simply oppressed and staid. Here are three poignant anthologies that work to dispel the prejudice, show the Muslim woman’s pride, reclaim … Continue reading →

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A Couple Tips

Posted on October 10, 2018 by Papatia

After the honeymoon phase passes, it’s hard at times to stay the hopeless romantics in a marriage. Some couples discover there are asexual. Other become obsessed with intimacy and many don’t even bother with it. It has become a chore … Continue reading →

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Miss Hayati: Is Bringing Up Past Arguments Healthy For A Marriage?

Posted on October 10, 2018 by Papatia

Miss Hayati is a new BellaNaija Style series that explores the mysterious and the seemingly impenetrable world of young West African Muslim women. Headlined by four alternating writers: Fatima Togbe, Papatia Feauxzar, Maryam Salam and Ismath Lauriano, the goal is … Continue reading →

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To Get a Marriage License or Not to Get One?

Posted on March 6, 2018 by Papatia

Bismillah, Many Muslim couples wonder if they should get a secular marriage license in addition to their Islamic marriage contract. To answer this question we need to realize that it’s a case by case issue. I have seen many scenarios … Continue reading →

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Blog Tour for ‘Ramadan without Daddy’ by Misbah Akhtar

Posted on August 7, 2017 by Papatia
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A GUIDE TO ASEXUAL MUSLIM WOMEN

Posted on February 26, 2017 by Papatia

Bismillah, We marry for different reasons; looks, money, deen, romantic attraction, physical attraction, sexual attraction, etc. While there are good and bad consequences to each of our choices, it’s important to note that some of the choices we make such … Continue reading →

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Chains — Hayati Magazine

Posted on December 4, 2016 by Papatia

“One of the Vice Presidents is quite infatuated with you,” the server said close to her ear. “I’m not interested. I’m married,” the ebony girl replied with a haughty air, whipping her pony tail about. The server girl sighed and … Continue reading →

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Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work — Hayati Magazine

Posted on November 13, 2016 by Papatia

Assalamu aleikum, I stumbled on a manual I used during counseling class before I got married, and thought I would share some of the wisdom I learned in this class with you insha’Allah. They are based on John M. Gottman’s … Continue reading →

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Erotology, Islam, and More.

Posted on November 7, 2016 by Papatia

Assalamu aleikum! I just reviewed two books on Marriages, Erotology, and the Islamic Perspective. Please check them out on my website. Like A Garment  by Shaykh Yasir Qadhi Read review here. and Illuminating the Performance by Historian Habeeb Akande Read … Continue reading →

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What To Do When In An Asexual Relationship — Hayati Magazine

Posted on October 8, 2016 by Papatia

Bismillah, You will find a lot of information on how to rekindle a romance but very little information on how to deal with asexuality in a Muslim marriage. What is asexuality? Check this post to read more on it. As … Continue reading →

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Your Relationship Needs The A²

Posted on September 29, 2016 by Papatia

Assalamu aleikum, Please read my latest post at Hayati Magazine or here 🙂 insha’Allah. *** A good relationship needs The A² . What is The A²? It’s short for The Avenger and The Answerer. Nerdy right? I know! So, we … Continue reading →

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The White Elephant – A Review — Hayati Magazine

Posted on September 19, 2016 by Papatia

The White Elephant is a must read for anyone contemplating the idea of marriage or anyone going through a divorce. As the Love and Relationship Editor for Hayati Magazine, I try to counsel married and non-married folks on the institution … Continue reading →

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L’Américaine – Part 7 — Hayati Magazine (French & English)

Posted on August 21, 2016 by Papatia

Femta Compaoré est une mère célibataire qui tente de divorcer de son premier mari Obê quand Uthman entre dans sa vie à un point où elle croit qu’elle n’a plus d’espace dans son cœur pour l’amour. Lit sur Amazon. ©Papatia … Continue reading →

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L’Américaine – Part 6 — Hayati Magazine (French & English)

Posted on August 15, 2016 by Papatia

Femta Compaoré est une mère célibataire qui tente de divorcer de son premier mari Obê quand Uthman entre dans sa vie à un point où elle croit qu’elle n’a plus d’espace dans son cœur pour l’amour. Lit sur Amazon. ©Papatia … Continue reading →

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When Communication Is Not Enough — Hayati Magazine

Posted on August 4, 2016 by Papatia

Bismillah, Too much communication can ruin a relationship like no communication can. I shall explain later but for now I want to digress a bit. Often times, we strive to keep the line of communication open in our marriages but … Continue reading →

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More Eclectic Book Reviews

Posted on July 27, 2016 by Papatia

The first one is Secrets that Finds Us by Author Sahar Abdulaziz. This is a story full of half truths and lies. Review The Mexican Wife by Consuelo Murgia . This story portrays Italian and Mexican cultures and the search of … Continue reading →

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What Do Women Want From You?

Posted on July 2, 2016 by Papatia

Assalamu aleikum, Here is  a little grain of salt… Read here… Wassalam, Papatya*

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