“…be a servant to him, and he will become a servant to you…” Umamah bint al-Harith
This picture is so cute masha’Allah! Another reason I love it, is because it depicts my husband and I perfectly ;).
A great Muslimah chooses a good husband and vice-versa; for pure women are for pure men.
She is obedient and respectful to him. He also respects her in return.
She is lovely to her husband and eager to please him.
She does not disclose his secrets. Mentioning one’s husband in a convo and telling his secrets are two different things.
She counsels him when he needs him, she is always by his side and is his rock as he is her rock.
She has a good influence on him by encouraging him to work in the service of Allah. Help him pray on time and become more charitable. My husband and I actually constantly remind each other about praying and Sadaqah. If I see that he has lost track of time while being busy on an activity, I inquire politely if he has prayed. He does the same thing for me when I fall asleep and that I may miss the praying time.
She makes her husband happy. Happiness amongst other things is a veneer of a long-lasting marriage. According to the scripture, a good wife, a good home, and a good means of transport makes a man happy. By the same token, a bad wife, a bad home, and a bad means of transport make him unhappy. I am the queen of giggling and silliness. My ‘goofiness’ radiates on him. He is also a master of sweets. We compliment each other.
She beautifies herself for her companion and does not look or lust at other men. I try not to look busy with my attire when we go out together. With that being said, I try to always look appealing to him inside and outside our home.
She does not in any circumstances antagonize him. His home should be a peaceful place he should come to after a long day of work, a trip, you name it. Of course we have arguments because that is what normal couples do but I do not intentionally go look for it. It is quite normal to not see eye-to-eye every now and then.
“And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy.” Surah 30:21
She does not hold grudges against her other half. She respects his family. My in-laws are wonderful. I respect them, and they kindly return the favor masha’Allah. A good relationship does not happen with magic. It takes time, effort, and work. I certainly worked hard to earn their respect, love, and prayers.
She is forgiving and strong of character. There is a difference between being rude and strong of character. When we have an argument, I get my point across without being disrespectful. Our prophet (Peace be upon him) and his wives used to have plenty of intellectual discussions, arguments too. They did not have to agree with him all the time.
She does not speak in vain. I tend to stay clear of office gossip. For that reason, I am seen as a very shy person. Having said that, I am very talkative but refrain myself to talk unnecessarily.
Above all, she is wise and prays her five daily prayers. Performing all these is what makes a spouse accomplishing half of her Deen (religion).
After you read this, you may think that we are the perfect couple. There is no such thing as perfect in today’s time. Our prophet (Peace be upon him) was perfect. We, his ummah, attempt to come close to perfectness :). We have our ups and downs but we deal it as there are tests to our faith, religion, and relationship with each other.
I hope you enjoyed my thoughts! Share yours! Ask me questions! Let’s discuss 🙂 in sha Allah.
Author of “Between Sisters, SVP“